Have you ever proposed to a lady or a gentleman proposed to you? One of the stages in life that has a lot of anxiety is when looking for a spouse more so when you are in your 30s and you realize time is catching up with you. A lady asked me on Sunday after church service to pray for her get a God fearing husband but when I asked her whether she Has been asking God for the same, she could not remember the last time she prayed about it.
Getting what you want out of life isn’t always easy. You can spend weeks, months or even years working on your goals. That’s a lot of effort and planning just to get from point A to point B. Worse still are the people who do nothing but wait around hoping that what they want will just appear in front of them. I have found myself sometimes deeply disturbed by something so seriously only to realize that the moment I ask few trusted people how to go about it I realize it was not as serious as I had taken it more so when I involve God.
There’s a better way to get what you want, just ask for it. The old adage that the fastest route between two points is a straight line applies in between. Asking for what you want is easier and works faster than any plan you could come up with.
The biggest reason most people don’t try asking for what they want is fear. They fear rejection or they fear that they’ll ask in the wrong way or say something stupid. Asking someone for something you want can be a scary thing to do, but it’s a lot better than waiting for it to just happen. And with a few tips, you can make your experience a lot better. I remember before I proposed to my dear wife, it took weeks of planning, anxiety, fear of unknown etc but when I took the bold step, she was eagerly anticipating for it and even wondered why I had taken that long.
There’s something about combining confidence with control that gets attention. People really respond positively to it. You’re probably going to be nervous asking, but that’s normal. Relax as best as you can and be confident. If you ask in an assertive, polite way, you’re more likely to get what you want.
The more specific a request you make, the easier it will be for both you and the person you’re asking and this even applies when asking God. If you appear indecisive and unsure in what you want, your request will come off as weak. Part of success in asking for what you want is showing the person how much you really want it. Show this by being specific in what you want. Plus, being specific is just polite to the person you’re asking in case they have to work around your request.
Before you ask for what you want, realize that people want to help you. It is rare for someone to respond negatively to a well-thought out polite request. Most people get a good feeling by helping another person out. Plus, they’ll probably remember a time when they were in a similar position. If you keep this in mind, you’ll be more confident. And that will get you one step closer to getting that “yes”.
I remember in 2013 when I was intensely pushing for first aid to be introduced to the Kenyan curriculum. Back then I was the Training Manager St John Ambulance Kenya and had submitted a lot of proposals to different government institutions and in one occasion I shared this convincingly with the First Lady who considered it and purposed to fast track it. I remember when I told her about it she just said, “ Steve this is a noble step and it will be done. You have done the best you could have and now I will follow it up.” Some months the Cabinet Secretary for Education Dr Fred Matiangi announced that they have considered having first aid introduced in the primary school curriculum. I was to only ask the right person….even in your case, just ask the right person. Ask God, Ask your boss, Ask…
John16:24, Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.
Mathew7:7 Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
James4:3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
Ask with a motive to glorify God. He may take a little longer but you need to be a little bit patient and at His appointed time 0which could be immediately He will do it.
John14:13 And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.
My friend, whatever you want and from whoever it is, you will gain nothing by not asking and lose nothing by asking. God expects you to ask for it and you will receive and your joy will be complete. Ask Now! You can watch dozens of my youtube videos and subscribe to be getting a variety of videos, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjP3reGKNhad7OU0bNiDexw
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